"From the backstabbing co-worker to the meddling in-law,
you are in charge of how you react to the people and events in your life.
You can either give negativity power over your life
or you can choose happiness instead.
Take control and choose to focus on what is important in your life.
Those who cannot live fully often become destroyers of life."
* * Attention: When you are NOT in the presence of toxic people, do not waste one nano-second of your life energy on them. Do not think about them. Do not talk about them. If someone else brings up the topic of "What they up to now?" just change the subject and make it clear you will not discuss them. The less attention you put on these toxic people, the less you will find yourself thinking about them.
* * Engagement: When you are in the presence of toxic people, do not adopt their tactics by stooping to trade insults with them. Do not retaliate by doing the same rotten things to them that they have done to you. Do call them on their bad behavior in a calm manner by just sticking to the facts. Otherwise, do not engage them. If they start verbally abusing you, walk away.
* * Redirection: When toxic people have hurt you deeply, it is hard not think about them. Yet that is what you must do. When they intrude upon your thoughts, immediately change the channel by thinking about something else that is pleasant. The more you redirect your mind to happiness, the less you will find it drifting back to toxic people. When this redirection becomes a habit, toxic people will rarely intrude upon your mind.
* * Crowding: When you have to be around or see toxic people, arrange to see them when there is a large crowd present. If one person tries to be nasty, just walk away and find another one who can be pleasant. Remember what goes around comes around and those who are nasty will only end up destroying their own life.